Boys, clothes, school, BFFs… we’ve all got problems but, in How to Rock Braces and Glasses by Meg Haston, Kacey Simon has the solutions!
I really like this guy, but he is dating someone else. She’s not one of my close friends, but she is really nice, so I feel bad. The guy I like, her boyfriend, has told me if he wasn’t with her, he would be with me. I want to ‘fess up that I like him, but I’m scared! What should I do?
Signed, Quietly Crushing
It’s an old story, really. Girl meets boy. Girl crushes on boy. Boy has a girlfriend (who’s really nice, who’s super terrible, who spits a little when she talks—whatever.) Girl feels angst.
If you know me (and why wouldn’t you?), you know that I have a rep for cutting to the chase. And today is no exception. Simon Says: there are two rules when it comes to this type of situation.
- Crushes? Okay. There are probably lots of reasons you crushed on this guy in the first place. Maybe he’s super smart, or has a killer sense of style. Don’t beat yourself up for having a crush.
- Boyfriend stealing? Not okay. Even though it’s fine to have a crush, it’s not fine to act on it. Ask yourself: do you really want to be with a guy who would ditch his current girlfriend in a heartbeat?
This guy has told you that if he wasn’t with his girlfriend, he’d be with you, right? Well, here’s the bad news, Crushing. (Are you sitting? Or at least holding on to a stable surface?)
He is with her.
So where does that leave you? Well, it leaves you free for another crush. A crush who’s sweet, smart, stylish, and, um, AVAILABLE. You deserve it.